Does it feel like you met the right person at the wrong time?

This guy is seemingly a PERFECT match for you. He matches your love vision, you’re having so fun much getting to know him, and you can picture him in your future.

But there’s one catch.

Maybe he lives across the country from you, or he just got out of a serious relationship, or he’s in a phase where he wants to have fun and not commit to anyone.

You may be experiencing a case of meeting the right guy at the wrong time. This can be incredibly challenging to deal with because finding someone you genuinely connect and align with is hard enough. When you finally do find a man like this, you want nothing more than to make it work. Trust me; I get it.

But if a man comes along at the wrong time (for you or him), even if he ticks all your boxes and is literally the man of your dreams on paper, it’s unlikely to work out.

Why?

Because the belief that you’ve met someone at the wrong time suggests that you’re not in the headspace to commit to someone fully. It doesn’t matter how amazing you think they are or how much you wish you had met them five years earlier or later. What matters is right now, you are not ready for them.

Can you really meet the right person (the love of your life) at the wrong time?

You’ve probably experienced your fair share of dates and relationships that haven’t worked out as you imagined they would. So when you finally do meet someone who seems like a great match, you desperately want to make things work. Because who knows when the next amazing man is going to walk into your life, right?

Even if you know there are some significant obstacles or challenges to overcome, and the odds are against you, you may become fixated on putting all your energy into doing it. One or both of you may know deep down that it’s not going to work out, so you’ve overcompensated for that feeling in an attempt to prove to yourself that it CAN, and it WILL work. After all, no one wants to look back in a year and worry that they gave up too quickly or potentially missed out on the love of their life.

But in doing so, you ignore obvious clues and signs that the relationship is perhaps not suitable for either of you. Maybe you’ve got a lot of inner work to do when it comes to loving yourself and recognizing your value. Or perhaps he has some work to do in figuring out what he truly wants in a relationship and how that fits into the rest of his life.

Is it the right timing but the wrong person?

This leads me to the harsh truth that you may not want to hear right now. But I owe it to you, to be honest.

If you’ve met the right person at the “wrong” time, chances are good they are not the right person at all. You’re just blind-sighted right now and unable to see it.

Why?

Because timing is everything. It doesn’t matter if this guy ticks all your boxes and you want to be with him. If he’s not ready for that right now or has other priorities, then you are heading in opposite directions from the start.

Timing is really just another word for being on the same page or in the same headspace. This is key for a relationship to grow and thrive.

“Right time, wrong person” often becomes an excuse that people use when a relationship isn’t working out, even though it’s more likely because it’s the wrong person. But when it does work out, they’ll tell themselves it was a case of “right timing,” although it’s usually because it was the right person.

In my experience, this is most often the case. But of course, there are always exceptions to every rule.

The science of timing

Benjamin W. Hadden and Christopher R. Agnew researched timing and commitment in relationships.

In their study, single people were assessed on their readiness for commitment and how it affects how a relationship forms. They wanted to prove that if a person were genuinely interested in forming and sustaining a relationship, they would take intentional actions toward achieving that. They discovered that the “timing” of a relationship is based on people’s willingness to commit, which determines how ready they are for a long-term relationship.

This commitment level not only matters in the initial phase of the relationship but also affects how strong the relationship is in the future.

In a nutshell, if a person is ready for a relationship, then the timing is right for them to find a relationship.

Here are 11 signs you met the right person at the wrong time

Is it genuinely a case of the right person at the wrong time?

I can’t give you an answer because I don’t know you and I don’t know the circumstances. However, here are some signs (whether it’s wrong timing or the wrong person) that your relationship is destined to destruct.

1. One or both of you are rebounding

Have you just gotten out of a serious relationship, or has he?

I’m talking about a fresh breakup that happened just weeks or a few months ago. And if either of you recently got divorced or you sadly became widowed, the time you need to heal fully can be up to a year or even more.

It doesn’t really matter how your previous relationship ended. What matters is how much time you’ve taken to breathe, reflect, and rebuild yourself. Unfortunately, I see too many women (and men) jumping back into relationships too soon. Usually, it’s because you feel lonely, you miss the bond you had with that person, and maybe you’re avoiding dealing with your emotions.

Although the aftermath of a breakup is painful, you have to let yourself feel that pain and go through all the stages of a breakup if you want to come out the other side ready to date again.

You may have genuinely met an amazing man who you do think is perfect for you. But if one or both of you are rebounding, you cannot show up fully in the relationship. And the mature thing to do is, to be honest with yourself (and them). Give yourself time and permission to grieve what you’ve lost. If they are rebounding, think about whether you like them enough to wait a few months for them to be ready for a new relationship.

Signs he is rebounding:

• He mentions his ex frequently (including the first date), even if it’s to say “I’m definitely over my ex” (SPOILER ALERT: he’s not!).
• It doesn’t feel like he’s fully present with you when you’re together. You’re getting half of him.
• Your relationship is almost entirely physical, and you only spend time together in the bedroom.
• He’s hot and cold with you.
• He has told you he has just come out of a serious relationship.

2. Right time, wrong person: You’re in a bad place

You cannot be in a loving, healthy, happy relationship if you are not happy with yourself.

So, if you know you’re not in a great place right now, mentally or physically, you might end up subconsciously sabotaging the relationship because you don’t believe you deserve love. Or, you might be pushing an amazing man away because you don’t want him to see the real you.

This can leave you feeling like you’ve genuinely met the right person at the wrong time. He’s incredible, but your head and heart are all over the place.

The truth is, you don’t need me to tell you what to do here. If you’re honest with yourself, you already know.

Step #1 of the Little Love Steps methodology is to build your sexy confidence before you even think about dating someone.

To do this, you have to tap into your feminine energy and start recognizing your value. That means working on building your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and your self-love. Because when you love yourself, you won’t settle for less than you deserve, and you will know how to position yourself as a high-value woman to attract a high-value man.

If you’re in a bad place right, practicing forgiveness and self-love will help you build yourself back up and get into the right mindset to date again.

3. You’re afraid

Are you a woman who has spent most or all of her life single? Or are you used to dating a certain kind of man, and you know now that is where you’ve been going wrong, and you need to look for someone different?

If either of these rings true for you (or him), it’s normal to be experiencing anxiety or fear. You might be telling yourself that this man you’ve just met is the right person at the wrong time. But in reality, you’re uncomfortable with the new situation you’ve found yourself in.

Maybe this new guy is challenging you in ways you’ve never experienced in the past. Perhaps the prospect of dating again after a really long time makes you deeply uncomfortable.

But here’s the deal: feeling uncomfortable is a GREAT thing.

It means you are stepping out of your comfort zone, which is essential if you want to grow. And if everything you’ve been doing in your dating life hasn’t been working for you up to now, it’s vital that you shake things up and do something different.

Why?

Because you can’t keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect to have different results.

So ask yourself, is this man a great match for me, and do I like him enough to want to pursue this?

If the answer is yes, then it’s probably not the timing, rather your own fear getting in the way.

If you need some help moving through this, why not try working with a dating coach?

4. You have great chemistry, not compatibility

Chemistry and compatibility are two very different things.

Chemistry is being physically attracted to someone and maybe having a great sexual relationship with them. Compatibility is when you both want similar things, are on the same page, and are committed to building a future together.

The reason why so many women end up liking a man who isn’t right for them comes down to chemistry. He gives you those butterflies in your belly. He lights your fire. And he turns you on.

When a man makes you feel this way, it can leave you oblivious to all other parts of the relationship. You’re so focused on those positive feelings that you ignore everything else he is doing or saying, and you brush off fundamental cracks in the foundation.

MAJOR signs you’re not compatible would be if one of you is looking for something serious and the other is not, or one of you is about to move continents, or you clash on lifestyle choices like marriage and kids.

So, if the chemistry is there but you know in your heart you’re not compatible, it may feel like you’ve met the right person at the wrong time.

5. You enjoy spending your free time differently

It’s not realistic to have the exact same interests and hobbies as the person you’re dating. To be honest, that can make a relationship a little boring and one-dimensional. However, there is such a thing as being too different.

For example, does he want to go out every weekend to bars and drink, while you prefer cozy movie nights in? Or does he choose to spend the majority of his free time hanging out with friends while you want to spend more time together as a couple? Is he an adrenaline junkie who loves nothing more than skydiving, ski jumping, and surfing while you find yourself constantly worrying about his safety when he’s off doing what he loves best?

These are all examples of extreme differences in how you both enjoy spending your time. It can potentially be a red flag—particularly if neither of you is willing to compromise and meet halfway.

If these differences are already starting to create conflict in your relationship and you’re struggling to resolve them, it’s likely you aren’t a great match for each other right now.

6. You have BIG arguments in the honeymoon phase

Conflict is expected in a healthy relationship, but there are a couple of things to be mindful of:

1. How often conflict happens
2. What the conflict is about
3. How you deal with conflict as individuals and a team.

If you’ve only just met and you’re arguing a lot already, this is generally a sign that you aren’t compatible. For example, maybe you get irritated with each other easily, or small things end up escalating into massive arguments, and you just can’t seem to get on the same page.

Either you haven’t figured out how to communicate successfully with each other, in which case there is still hope if you are both willing to learn and do better. Or, you’re not ready or bothered enough to change the way you act, which may feel like a case of the right person, wrong time. And this could be true, or it could be that you are both completely wrong for each other.

Family therapist Nicole Richardson suggests that if you have a big argument within the first five dates, this should be viewed as a red flag. Because the reality is, relationships only become more challenging as they evolve and you dive into deeper levels of commitment.

7. You don’t share long-term goals

Everything about this guy matches the love vision you’ve created for yourself (check out my Little Love Steps if you want to know more about that), apart from one thing: his long-term goals.

Wherever the subject of the future crops up, it’s clear that you don’t want the same things.

Perhaps he wants to live in a big city, and you want to live in a country cottage in the middle of luscious green rolling hills. Maybe you want to get married and have kids, but he’s already been there and done that and isn’t interested in doing it again. Or perhaps he’s keen to travel the world and explore, but you’re very much a home-bird.

It may feel like you’ve met the right person at the wrong time, but it could just be that you aren’t a match. When it comes to BIG lifestyle choices like this, it’s not fair for either person to compromise, which means that it’s likely you’re just not right for each other.

8. Distance is an issue

Did you already live far apart from each other when you met? Or is one of you leaving town soon for a while, or for good?

Both scenarios are tricky because relationships are challenging enough when everything is in your favor. Throw in a long distance, and things can become even more complicated.

You may find yourself wishing, if only we had met five years earlier before he moved, or five years later when he was done traveling and more ready to settle down in one place.

Usually, it will feel like you met the right person at the wrong time if you’re unable to make the distance work and figure out a future plan for you to be together finally. Of course, it’s not fair to ask someone to give up their dream job or stop them from having an incredible experience their soul seeks. But if you both like each other enough and want to make it work, there is usually a way forward.

9. You have other priorities that are more important

Did one of you just get a BIG promotion at work, or quit your job to start a new business, or does one of you have a sick family member to take care of?

There will usually be more than one priority for us at any point in our lives. This is all part of learning to balance multiple things. But for a relationship to thrive, it does require constant time and energy.

So, if it feels like one or both of you cannot invest that right now (for whatever reason), then it could be a case of the right person at the wrong time.

However, it’s important to know that other priorities like this will almost always exist. When whatever’s going on right now calms down, something else will inevitably take its place. So you need to ask yourself, is this really the wrong time, or am I just making excuses because I know this isn’t the right match for me?

10. You’re going through a major life change

Significant life changes include things like starting school, graduating college, changing careers, breakups, a death, getting divorced, etc. These are changes that can profoundly affect us and require a lot of energy and focus to adjust. During these times, many people will feel like they just don’t have the capacity to deal with a new relationship at the same time.

Nick Glozier conducted a study of 14,000 people in Australia across the span of 16 years. He measured their wellbeing and happiness as they went through common life events like job changes, health issues, and financial ups and downs. He found that, on average, the most difficult transitions are experiencing a death of a loved one, getting divorced, and a major financial loss. People can take three to four years to emotionally recover from these events. His findings also showed that moving on too quickly can have significant consequences.

So if you or the man you’re seeing are going through a major life change, you might think you’ve met the right person at the wrong time. You think he’s fantastic, but your heart just isn’t ready to welcome him in yet.

11. He’s not looking for anything serious

You are sure you like this man and want things to progress with him. However, he is sending mixed or clear messages that he is not ready for a commitment right now.

Either this is because he’s fresh out of a breakup and not ready to move on yet, or it’s because he has not met the right woman yet who makes him want to commit.

Signs he is not looking for anything serious:

• He has specifically said, “I’m not looking for anything serious.”
• He talks about his ex a lot.
• Things go too fast in your relationship, and you end up intensely kissing or sleeping together on the first date.
• He texts you late at night wanting to meet up.
• You always go out of your way to see him, never the other way around.
• He’s selfish and self-centered.

Regardless of the reason for this, if it’s clear he isn’t looking for the same things you are, it’s time to say NEXT!

So, you met the right person at the wrong time. What do you do now?

You could try and make it work if you believe it’s worth it and that timing really is the issue at play.

However, if reading this article has made you realize that perhaps this is not the right person for you, here’s what to do:

• Appreciate the good times you’ve had together.
• Let yourself be annoyed/frustrated/upset.
• Find the strength and courage to walk away (cut all contact).
• Don’t take this as a sign that you need to change who you are.
• Focus on yourself right now (this will help you regain a sense of control).
• Move on to the next guy when you’re ready (this is Little Love Step #3).

Conclusion: Usually, the right person at the wrong time is the wrong person!

I know this may not be what you came here wanting to hear, but I would be doing a disservice to you if I sugar-coated the truth.

In the majority of cases I’ve seen (in the thousands of men and women I’ve coached), it’s usually not a case of the right person, wrong time, but simply the wrong person.

If you’ve genuinely met the right man, it will be the right time because both of you will go out of your way to make it work. The right person will make you want to compromise, make new plans together and move forward. You will know that you want to be with them, and this will trump everything else.

Have you ever dated a guy who felt like the right person at the wrong time?

I’d love to hear what happened. Tell me all in the comments below.

On the web dating websites and apps are a wonderful spot to connect with people today you wouldn’t otherwise meet up with.

Unfortunately, you by no means know who you are going to close up meeting or what that person’s serious intentions are at the start out.

Which is why I recommend being a tiny careful to maintain by yourself harmless and secured from scammers and skeeze-balls.

I have had really a number of girls in my coaching program talk to me for suggestions on what to do if a guy asks them for extra images on line.

You’re imagining, WTF?! Why do you need to have a lot more photographs of me? I have currently received 5 astounding types on my profile.

So, what’s his authentic agenda? And how must you reply?

Let me exhibit you what to do if a guy at any time texts you “send me a lot more pics” on a courting web-site.

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Keep in mind, you do not owe everyone you meet on the net something.

I have recognized that also many women of all ages are stuck in a people-pleasing manner and just cannot say no without emotion guilty.

Just because somebody asks you to do something does not imply you have to do it. A type and legitimate guy is not likely to be demanding issues from you in advance of you’ve even gone on a 1st date.

Preserve your eyes huge open for crimson flags like this.

Has a man at any time messaged you on a courting app to “send additional pictures?”

What occurred next?

Convey to me all in the remarks below.

Your Coach,

Did you know that specific questions can help you get to know your partner more intimately in a new relationship? Whether you’ve been dating for a few weeks or months (or even years), there are questions you can ask each other to build your connection.

Dating should be a balance of having fun, getting to know each other, and figuring out whether you’re compatible for a long-term relationship (if that’s what you’re looking for). And one of the best ways to get to know your partner better and build an authentic foundation is to have deep, meaningful conversations. Conversations where you share your greatest passions, dreams, and goals, your most terrifying fears, embarrassing moments, regrets from the past, and more. You’ll start to uncover why your partner is the way they are, and vice versa.

These questions will require you both to be a little vulnerable and actively listen, empathize, and be honest. Some are a little heavier than others, but you’ll generally find a conversation like this incredibly insightful and a lot of fun!

The science behind the questions to ask in a new relationship

Social psychologist Arthur Aron conducted an experiment and found that pairs of people who discussed “deep questions” were more likely to maintain and grow their connection than those who only shared small talk.

Now, there’s no guarantee that these questions will help bring you closer together and build that all-important emotional attraction, but when have there ever been any guarantees when it comes to relationships? The simple act of opening up to each other can really help strengthen your bond.

And these questions aren’t limited to those in a new relationship. If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you can also use these questions to reconnect with each other, and you might find out something life-changing that you never knew!

77 questions for a new relationship to build a deeper connection

1. Tell me what you’re most grateful for right now?

The act of thinking about what you’re thankful for will put you both into an abundant mindset, and you’ll get to see what he appreciates most. It’s these little things that become the big things in life.

2. What does a “perfect” day look like to you?

Okay, so there’s no such thing as perfect, but there are days when it feels like you’ve gotten really close. This question will help you get a clearer picture of how he likes to spend his time day to day.

3. What do you like most about me?

This question can work no matter how recently you started dating. If you’ve only been on a few dates, then you’re likely to get a surface-level answer (e.g., you’re fun to be around, the way you laugh). But if you’ve been dating a while, he will probably share something that runs deeper.

4. What place in the world would you most like to go on vacation?

Get to know where he’s already traveled and the places on his future vacation list. Do you have any places you both want to explore? Maybe you can plan to go somewhere together soon!

5. What three things in your life could you not cope without?

It’s tough to choose just three, so this will give you a great sense of what he values most and what his priorities currently are.

6. Tell me something you’ve never told anyone before.

It’s up to him how deep he chooses to go with his answer. If he feels like it’s too soon to share a big secret with you, then he might have fun with his response by saying something like, “I’m terrified of peas.”

7. What initially attracted you to me?

Most guys will answer with something physical here—unless you were friends first and have known each other a while. Your great smile, your beautiful eyes, your quirky style, etc.

8. If you had to describe our relationship in three words, what would they be?

If you’ve already defined your relationship (Little Love Step #6), then this will tell you how your partnership feels to him.

9. What’s the greatest achievement of your life so far?

You may think you already know this, but perhaps what he sees as his greatest achievement and what you think is different. You’ll never know until you ask!

10. What’s at the top of your bucket list right now?

Even if he doesn’t have a physical bucket list that he’s written, there will likely be a bunch of things he wants to do and hasn’t found time to… yet. This will give you an insight into the new experiences he seeks.

11. Tell me about one of the most adventurous things you’ve done in your life so far?

Maybe he’s a conservative guy, or perhaps he’s an adrenaline junkie. This will give you an indication of where he sits on the spectrum and whether you share the same definition of adventure.

12. What do you value most in a relationship?

An essential question to ask someone you’re thinking of building a relationship with. What are they looking for?

13. What’s your relationship like with your parents?

Some of us are incredibly close to one or both of our parents, while others of us not so much. Others don’t even know their biological parents. This will alert you to any potential family issues or close bonds.

14. If you could wake up tomorrow with a new skill or talent or gift, what would you choose?

You can literally pick ANYTHING here. Wizardry, fortune-telling, juggling—the world is your oyster.

15. If you had an unlimited amount of money to start a business tomorrow, what would it be?

Maybe you’ll find out that he does have a business idea and wants to start a business eventually, or perhaps he already has one on the side.

16. How have you changed over the last five years?

Five years is a big chunk of time. It’s likely the man he is now is different in multiple ways. This will show you how he’s grown, what he’s learned, and where he’s striving to go.

17. What has been the most embarrassing moment of your life?

A brilliant question for a new relationship. We’ve all had our fair share of embarrassing incidents, but retelling them often puts us right back in the moment and turns our cheeks a deep shade of rouge!

18. If your house caught on fire, assuming all your loved ones are safe, what would you grab to save before you left?

Is he possession orientated? Is there anything in his house that means a lot to him that you don’t know about yet? Or would he be happy leaving everything, just as long as his loved ones were safe?

19. What’s something you’ve always wanted to have a go at trying but haven’t yet?

This can be anything—surfing, playing guitar, learning how to make pottery, ballet, singing karaoke, etc. Maybe you can make a plan to do it together (if you’re game)?

20. What would your perfect date with me look like?

If you’ve just started dating, this can be a fun question because he might just end up describing a beautiful date that he then takes you on very soon.

21. If you become a billionaire, what’s the first thing you would do?

A BILLION dollars is a lot of money. More than anyone needs. So, is he a saver, a spender, or a giver? What is his current relationship with money like?

22. What are three things you admire most about yourself?

I love this question because too many of us focus on what we’re not so great at while ignoring our amazing qualities and talents. This will make him feel really good about himself, and he will associate that feeling with you.

23. What are three things you admire most about me?

Get ready to feel good about yourself too! It’s always nice to have an outward perspective on who you are and how others see you.

24. What did you love doing as a child that you don’t do anymore?

We all have hobbies, interests, and family traditions that we did all the time growing up but eventually grew out of or didn’t make time for. Maybe this question will lead him to pick up an old hobby he loved.

25. When was the last time you cried?

Men are known for having a lot of shame around showing their emotions, and we learn this from a very young age. Has he EVER cried (there are a rare few who haven’t—FYI, I am NOT one of them)?! If so, has he ever cried in front of anyone else?

26. What advice would you give your younger self?

Was there something he did or didn’t do growing up that he still regrets or feels frustrated about?

27. What has been the most significant happy accident in your life so far?

There are times in our life when something unexpected happens, and although it’s not what we wished for, it ends up being a tremendous blessing in disguise.

28. What does love mean to you?

Love means different things to all of us. Find out what it means to him and see if you’re on the same page.

29. How do you feel about marriage and kids? Do you see those things in your future?

This is an important question to ask any guy you’re dating because these are BIG lifestyle choices you need to align with for your relationship to work.

30. What’s your biggest fear?

Every human being has fears and phobias, no exceptions. Maybe he’ll say something common like rats, or perhaps he’ll surprise you.

31.Describe your perfect weekend to me.

Knowing how he prefers to spend his weekends is vital because if he loves to party while you prefer chilled, lazy weekends, you may clash.

32. Is there anything you’re afraid to ask me but have been wanting to for a while?

This question will put you in the hot seat, but it’s a great way to be vulnerable with him and bring your guard down a little.

33. When was the last time you did something out of your comfort zone? How did it make you feel?

Stepping out of your comfort zone is both uncomfortable and thrilling. Before you go for it, and sometimes in the moment, it can be scary. But afterward? It’s liberating.

Is he someone who regularly challenges himself, or does he tend to live life within self-imposed limits?

34. What is your favorite book of all time?

If he doesn’t read anymore, this can be a book he loved as a child. And if he’s coming up short here, feel free to switch “book” for “movie.”

35. Tell me about a recent dream you remember having.

Our dreams often seem crazy if and when we remember them the following morning. But did you know they are filled with messages from your subconscious?

Yes! Google what his dreams symbolize.

36. If you knew you only had a year left to live, how would you spend it?

We all know our time is limited, but too many of us live our lives as if it’s infinite. If it came down to 365 days, what would he do differently in his life? Maybe he wouldn’t change a thing. Maybe he would change everything.

37. How did you end up in your career, and do you ever think about doing anything else?

Many people fall into jobs by accident or see them as temporary but end up staying in those jobs for the rest of their lives. Is he happy with his career? Is he looking to make a change anytime soon? It’s never too late!

38. Have you ever struggled to love yourself?

We don’t talk about this enough, especially us guys. I know a ton of guys who have struggled with self-confidence, self-love, and mental health issues. Even if he appears to be super confident, there’s a chance he’s faking it or has struggled in the past.

39. If we broke up, what would be the thing you miss most about our relationship?

If you’re in a relationship with the guy in question, this will tell you the number one thing he loves about being with you and what your partnership adds to his life.

40. Do you know what your love language is?

If you haven’t yet taken the test and figured out what your love language is, do it! When you know how you best receive love and affection and what you’re looking for from your partner, it can significantly improve your connection.

41. Tell me about a moment in your life you can point to and say, that’s when it all changed?

We all have those moments in our lives—sometimes they’re big, and other times they’re much smaller. And we may not realize it when they’re happening, but that event or choice changes the entire trajectory of the rest of our life.

42. Do you ever wish you could do something all over again?

Maybe there’s a stand-out day or experience he wants to repeat, or perhaps something didn’t quite work out the way he wanted it to, and he’d like a second chance.

43. Do you have happy memories of your childhood?

Some of us have wonderful memories of growing up, while others are not so fortunate. Either way, this will help you understand his psyche a little more.

44. What is one habit you would like to change but are struggling to?

We all have our vices or habits we’ve fallen into and struggle to break. Maybe he drinks 11 cups of coffee each day, or orders takeout a little too often, or can’t remember to put the toilet seat down after he’s done (even though he knows it drives you INSANE).

This is a great question for a new relationship because it tells you the level of habits you’re dealing with.

45. What’s your number one goal for this year?

Is he the kind of guy that thinks about and sets goals for himself? Or does he go with the flow and not tend to push himself or have any grand ambitions? Neither one is better. What’s important is that you’re content with the way he lives his life.

46. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who would you choose?

You can pick anyone here, past or present. I know it’s tough to choose just one person, but this will give you great insight.

47. What are you most excited about getting older?

For some reason, we are all terrified of getting older and try to avoid it at all costs. But aging is a beautiful, rewarding experience if you let it be.

48. Are you a giver, a taker, or a matcher? Take the test here!

Relationships require both of you to be giving equally to your relationship. Naturally, there will be times when this balance shifts, but generally, it should always feel like it’s equal.

49. When you picture your future, what do you see?

If a guy can talk about the future with you, this is a great sign. If he mentions similar things to what you see in your future, even better.

50. Do you believe we were destined to cross paths?

When it comes to questions to ask in a new relationship, this one helps you see whether he believes in things like destiny and fate or whether he’s adamant that he is 100% in control of his life.

51. What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced and overcome in your life?

Challenges are tough while we’re working through them, but the act of doing this helps us grow and evolve as a person and become stronger than we were yesterday. Is he used to challenges, and does he welcome them?

52. What do you think is key to our relationship working so well?

Get him to open up to you on how he sees your partnership, how each of you shows up, and how you complement each other.

53. How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

One of the best questions to ask in a new relationship.

Why?

Because it will help you understand what’s important to him. Does he want to be known as someone who broke records, changed the world, or helped many people? Or is he simpler and content with being remembered as a friendly, loving soul?

54. Do you ever talk to yourself?

If the answer is yes, you may or may not have already witnessed this, and hopefully, he’ll share those one-to-ones!

55. Share a personal problem you’re currently experiencing with your partner, and ask them for their advice on dealing with it.

Open up about a problem at work or a problem in one of your friendships. Give him a short recap and ask for his advice on what to do. This will help you understand how he approaches problems and how rational he is.

56. What was your favorite movie when you were a child?

Most people love taking a trip down memory lane like this. And whether you know or like his favorite childhood movie or not, arrange to watch it together. Everyone loves a bit of nostalgia!

57. Tell me about one of your guilty pleasures.

Guilty pleasures: we’ve all got them whether we want to admit it or not. Maybe it’s a reality TV show, a band, or a cheesy song he LOVES, even though he knows it’s weird or as far away from cool as he could be.

FYI: his answer might make you laugh a LOT.

58. What was your first impression of me?

First impressions are a big deal, and we leave them with everyone we meet. So, what vibe did he get from you? How did you make him feel on that first date? Are you in tune with how you see yourself and how others see you?

59. If you could change one thing about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Even if we had a picture-perfect childhood, we can all agree that no parent has everything figured out. Maybe he wished things were a little less strict or a little more fun, or that his parents weren’t so protective of him as he grew up and gave him a little more independence.

60. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?

Younger people who are yet to experience significant trauma in their life are more likely to say yes to this. So if an older guy still believes this, it shows you he’s optimistic and looks for the good in all situations.

61. What’s one thing you want to do/see/achieve to make sure you die happy and fulfilled?

There might be one thing that stands out for him or a few things he still really wants to experience. Maybe you could make one of them happen for him as a surprise?

62. What do you find the most unattractive quality in a person?

I don’t like to dwell on negatives, but this question will help you see what his boundaries are regarding other people’s behavior or actions.

63. What’s one type of food or dish you’ve never tried but want to?

Because who doesn’t like talking about food?!

Maybe you can cook something together, or plan to head to a nearby restaurant, or even hop on a plane and experience the local, authentic version of the dish in question!

64. Do you believe there are other life forms in our universe apart from us?

One of the more fun questions to ask in a new relationship to see where his head is regarding aliens, other planets, energy, and spirituality.

65. What do you believe happens when a person dies?

The possibilities are endless. Reincarnation, heaven, a garden of paradise, another planet, nothing… Does he think there’s more out there? Maybe he already thinks he existed in a previous life? Who knows where this conversation will go.

66. Describe your fondest memory of all time to me.

This can be anything from his entire life. You’ll learn what his highlights have been so far and what brings him real joy and happiness.

67. If you could live anywhere other than where you live today, where would it be?

Has he ever thought about moving across the country, selling everything and buying an RV, or relocating to the other side of the world?

I think we’ve all thought about it at some point.

68. Tell me about a time when you failed at something.

Many of us feel shame and embarrassment when we fail at something, but failure is a beautiful thing—as long as we learn the lesson and grow from it.

69. What did you wish for most as a child?

A pony in your back garden, ice cream for breakfast, a million dollars to spend however you liked, a brother or sister, a new pair of air jordans on your birthday, or, dare I say it—new parents?!

What stands out for him as something he wanted more than anything?

70. Is there something you never said to someone that you wished you could go back and say?

Although it’s hard to admit, many of us carry regrets over things we did and didn’t say or do in our past. Unfortunately, most of us don’t get a chance at a do-over. Or by the time we realize we want to make things right, our chance has gone.

71. How do you show your love to the people you care about most?

You may already have a good idea of how he shows his love from how he treats you but does this match what he tells you?

72. How do you most enjoy receiving love?

This is a valuable question to ask in a new relationship because it helps you make him feel loved and appreciated in ways that matter most to him.

73. Do you ever wish you could be famous?

If he says yes, ask him in what way? Does he secretly long for the world to know his name, or does he want something a little more selfless, like being able to help people with his star power?

74. What was the most valuable lesson you learned from your last relationship?

Someone who is not learning anything from their past relationships is a red flag. There is always something to be learned about ourselves—even if it’s difficult to accept at first.

75. If you were given a year off from your work or business, what would you do?

Does he long for adventure, globe-trotting, or a break from the status quo? Or does he love his work and could think of nothing worse than being away from it that long?

76. What’s one thing you will do differently from your childhood if you have your own kids someday?

This is a great question to explore the topic of kids—whether he wants any (or more) and how he wants to raise them. Are you on the same wavelength?

77. What does it feel like when you’re in love?

Love is a different experience for us all, and explaining your emotions this way can be challenging. Be patient as he tries to share his with you.

Conclusion: these questions are guaranteed to bring you closer together in your relationship

Remember to have fun with this list and take it in turn to ask and answer questions. Pick the ones that you most want to know about, and make sure you mix them up so that it doesn’t turn into a job interview for him!

Have you ever asked (or answered) any of these questions in a new relationship? And how did they help your connection?

Let me know in the comments below, ladies.

When you initial start out courting in your teens and twenties, you possible have ZERO clues on who you are or what you want from a marriage.

This is entirely usual. You are continue to studying, and figuring out this mad point referred to as life.

Just about every time you shift into a new 10 years, you have banked new encounters, uncovered a lot of lessons, and gained beneficial knowledge alongside the way.

By the time you get to your 40s, you have received a substantially far better thought of who you are and what you want. And prospects are, this is really distinct from the you 20 many years back.

So, if you are wondering what gentlemen are looking for as they get more mature, I’m breaking it down for you in this video clip.

FYI: Attributes one particular and two are primarily based on info, although amount a few is based mostly on my very own practical experience coaching many men in the past.

Below are 3 features adult males around 40 almost always seem for in a female.

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Of course, adult males are hunting for a lot more than just these a few traits, and just about every guy is distinctive. But as a normal rule, you can bank on an older dude putting significant significance on these three things.

Why?

Due to the fact they are searching for a female who they are not only attracted to but can also invest a lot of time hanging out with.

Appears to be are critical, but they really do not final, and males in excess of 40 understand this and prioritize various things now to what they might’ve 20 many years back.

As you have gotten more mature, which high quality are you most attracted to in adult men?

Let me know in the responses beneath.

Your Coach,